I had planned to blog about activism, but I need to think about that one some more. Some things are hard to write, you know?
Tonight I want to talk about Rude People. For the most part, I can excuse a lot of bad behavior by looking at the circumstances of a person’s life, and realizing that in a similar situation, I would probably act much the same. But sometimes, there’s just no excuse.
And the sad fact is, Christians have the reputation of being some of the rudest people in existence. Even more sad is, the accusation isn’t completely unfounded.
My husband was raised in the church, and when he was in high school, he waited tables in a restaurant. He hated working the non-smoking section on Sundays because the church crowd came in. They were rude to the servers and horrible tippers to boot.
I am part of an incredible small group at church, and when we go out to a restaurant, we always make it a point to be super nice to our server [even if the service sucks] and leave a decent tip. We know that Christians suck at this, and try extra hard to show the people in the restaurant that we are fun-loving, courteous, normal, non-judgmental people. We believe that our job is to show love to everyone, regardless of their political affiliation, religion, sexual preference, race, etc., and leave the telling them they are wrong to be [fill in the blank] to God [that’s his job, and he’s pretty good at it. Also, he doesn’t convict everyone about the same stuff. Some sincere Christians use profanity, dance, smoke, and drink. There are people in the Christian faith who would say, “You can’t be a Christian if you do those things.”
Hogwash Bullshit. What you do and do not choose to do is between you and God, and frankly none of my business unless you ask my opinion]
“31”When the Son of Man comes in his glory, and all the angels with him, he will sit on his throne in heavenly glory. 32All the nations will be gathered before him, and he will separate the people one from another as a shepherd separates the sheep from the goats. 33He will put the sheep on his right and the goats on his left.
34″Then the King will say to those on his right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father; take your inheritance, the kingdom prepared for you since the creation of the world. 35For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, 36I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.’
37″Then the righteous will answer him, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? 38When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you? 39When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?’
40″The King will reply, ‘I tell you the truth, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers of mine, you did for me.’ [Matthew 25:31-40]
I think it’s interesting that Jesus called those people his brothers. I don’t think he was just talking about Christians in those verses. And yet, so many in the church today will “help out a brother in Christ,” but they won’t speak to or do anything to help nonChristians who are having bad times.
How is it that we have become so self-centered? How is it that we have forgotten what God called us to do? Why do we think we need to harp on about ‘proper conduct,’ and disregard the humanity, the “In God’s Image,” of those who are different from us?
And how can we, who are called to be a light in a dark world, justify nasty comments, rude behavior, or cruelty to anyone? We slay each other with words every day, and think nothing of it. We don’t care who we hurt, we just want to ‘tell it like it is.’
I am disappointed and angry at the rudeness of my fellow Christians, and I am ashamed.
If it weren’t for my small group at church, I would be sorely tempted to disassociate myself completely from organized Christianity. Notice I didn’t say I’d stop being a Christian. I do my best to follow Jesus because I have experienced his love and realness on a personal level. I may expand my belief system, but Jesus will always be the cornerstone of my faith.
I am really pissed off at some of my fellow Christians, though. We have made a mockery of ourselves, showing our asses [by being jerks] to people who are not members of our particular group, and in doing so, we have made a mockery of God.
I don’t know how he stands us, sometimes. May God have mercy on our souls.
In other news, I finally finished scene 8. It’s chaotic as hell, but I’m not gonna fix it yet. So slog through it if you’re interested, and forgive the more-weird-than-usual-ness of this scene.
*Edited to add:
I wasn’t going to refer to the actual incident that set me off, but after another bit of nastiness, I’m gonna stoop just a little. If you’re wondering what in the world I’m talking about, go here. My main issue is in the comments, but I’m disappointed in the whole mess. I think you’ll see what I mean.*